About Pam Monjar
I am Pam Monjar, and I want to help you navigate the journey of grief and loss.
You were never meant to carry your grief in silence. Whether your sorrow comes from a death or from the many quiet losses and transitions life asks us to endure, your pain is worthy of being seen, held, and honored with tenderness.
I will walk beside you—steady and compassionate—as you navigate the layers of loss. Together we will listen for your inner light, support your growing strength, and make space for hope to slowly return. You don’t have to walk this path alone.
Work With Me One-On-One
As a licensed clinical mental health therapist, I am devoted to tending the tender heart-wounds that yearn to be seen, heard, and lovingly held. My deepest hope is that my clients find permission to grieve — for what was, for what is, and for what may never be. Together, we create a soft and sacred space to mourn what’s been lost, reclaim their voice, and gently uncover a renewed sense of hope.
I walk with people through some of the hardest and most vulnerable seasons of their lives, as they move through loss, change, disappointment, and pain that deserve to be honored. I am continually humbled by the strength of the human spirit — by its courage to step into the dark places, to tend to the soul’s ache, and to slowly make room for light, and for hope, to return.
My Journey Through Loss
My passion for grief-informed therapy comes from my own lived experience—more than sixty years of learning to companion grief in all the ways it arrives: the death of a parent, the quiet ache of unmet needs, the sting of betrayal, dreams that never came to life, the exhausting chase for love, and a childhood that left me yearning for safety and belonging. Over time, the sorrow I carried began to recognize itself in others—mirrored in their stories, their tears, their silence. In that shared vulnerability, I discovered a profound truth: I was never truly alone—and neither are you.
For many years, I tried to outrun loss, to outpace disappointment, to stay busy enough that grief couldn’t catch up. But grief has its own wisdom. It asked me to slow down, to listen, to soften, to surrender. These past thirty years have been a sacred pilgrimage of inner healing and courageous self-discovery. I had to face my own tenderness, my fears, my wounds—and I’ll be honest—it was deeply vulnerable. My losses shattered everything I thought I knew about love, about safety, about how life should unfold. Yet in that undoing, grief became one of my greatest teachers—revealing who I had been, who I was becoming, and reconnecting me to a quiet inner spark that had always been there, waiting.
I’ve learned that healing begins when we allow ourselves to mourn—when we give voice to what hurts, honor the anger we were taught to suppress, and let tears speak the truths our minds can’t yet articulate. With time, grief evolved from something to simply survive into something transformative—a pathway to compassion, to strength, to deeper love.
And here is the hope I want to offer you: we can move through grief. Not by denying it or pushing past it, but by walking with it—gently, honestly, and in community. Slowly, softness returns. Breath returns. Trust returns. Life returns—not because grief disappears, but because it teaches us how to live with more presence, more clarity, and more heart.
Grief has shaped me. It continues to shape me. And this lived, loving wisdom is what I carry into my work with clients. Integrating loss into one’s story doesn’t mean forgetting—it means remembering with love, honoring with tenderness, and finding your way forward with courage and grace. I will walk beside you. You do not have to navigate this alone.
Grief – A Wise Teacher
Grief is not a problem to be solved — it is a sacred experience to be honored.
Grief comes to us in countless forms: death, broken attachments, invisible wounds, and the longings that never found fulfillment. It is love’s echo — the way our hearts speak when something cherished has been altered, never realized, or lost. Every grief story is valid. Every grief story is layered. Every grief story deserves to be witnessed and honored.
Grief is anything but linear. It can rush in like a wave or arrive quietly, without warning. It can knock us off the very foundation we stand on. The grief journey and integration of loss is not about forgetting or “moving on” — it is about learning to carry what remains, with tenderness, courage, and honor. In grief, there is no timeline and no expectation. Only a compassionate space to express, explore, and uncover the truths grief is trying to reveal.
I hold hope not as a cure, but as a companion — a soft light that can coexist with sorrow. I believe in the resilience of the human spirit, and in our innate capacity to find moments of meaning, connection, and renewal, even in the depths of loss.
As a grief-informed therapist — and a fellow traveler in loss who knows the terrain of heartbreak — my role is to walk with you—not in front, not behind, but beside you. Together, we will honor what was, make room for what is, and open to what still may be possible.
CORE VALUES
The Principles That Guide My Work
Spirituality
Connecting with the divine to guide your healing.
Support
Offering lived loss experience and presence in your time of need.
Love
Committing to offer compassion, empathy, and to be vulnerable with you.
Hope
Helping you find glimmers of joy and live fully after loss.
Authenticity
Encouraging you to live and love with intention.
Creativity
Providing various avenues to healing, from group work to artistic expression.
Experience
After more than twenty years in human resources, I began to feel a deeper calling—one that gently urged me to walk alongside people in the most vulnerable and transformative moments of their lives. That quiet inner pull led me into the world of therapy, and specifically into the sacred work of supporting those who are navigating the landscape of grief.
My professional journey has been rich and profoundly shaping. I have worked in residential rehabilitation settings supporting individuals healing from substance use, taught in Uganda on the far-reaching impact of trauma, and served as a primary therapist for individuals in solitary confinement and on death row. Each of these experiences deepened my understanding of sorrow and suffering, and revealed something just as powerful: the extraordinary resilience of the human heart and its enduring capacity to keep reaching for meaning, connection, and hope.
Today, I am honored to hold a private practice dedicated to grief and loss, and I also serve as an adjunct professor in an undergraduate psychology program, where I support adult learners in cultivating both their personal growth and their academic dreams. It is a privilege to witness the ways people rise, heal, and rediscover their own strength — again and again.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor-Mental Health Services Provider, Nationally Certified Counselor, Grief Counseling Professional, and hold specialized certifications as a Grief Educator and in Death and Bereavement Studies. I am also formally trained as an End-of-Life Doula. My continuing education includes extensive study in grief and loss with esteemed leaders such as Dr. Alan Wolfelt, David Kessler, Claire Bidwell Smith, and Hope Edelman.
At the heart of my work is deep reverence — for grief’s wisdom and vulnerability, for the authentic expression of pain that loss reveals, and for the sacred courage it takes to move through and find hope. I am honored to walk beside those who are grieving, offering presence, compassion, and hope as they reconnect to their divine spark. I am always holding hope.
EDUCATION:
- Master of Arts in Clinical Mental Health Counseling – Trevecca Nazarene University
- Bachelor of Arts in Management and Human Relations – Trevecca Nazarene University
ADDITIONAL TRAININGS:
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Certified in Death and Bereavement Studies – 2025
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Mother Loss – 2023
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Grief and Loss – A Comprehensive Training Program- 2022
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Certified Grief Educator – 2021
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Certified Grief Professional – 2020
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Trauma Competency for the 21st Century – 2021
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Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Levels 1 & 2 – 2020
WEBSITES I’M ALSO LISTED ON:
AFFILIATIONS
- American Counseling Association
- Tennessee Licensed Professional Counselors Association
- West Virginia Licensed Professional Counselor Association
- Nashville Psychotherapy Institute
- Nashville Area Association of Christian Counselors